Light Bondage Guide

Every so often, I like to spice things up a bit. That means getting quite kinky. Not sure what I’m talking about? Well, no problem, I’ve got you covered as I’m going to be sharing everything I know about light bondage…

Thoughts of what bondage is can weaken the steeliest reserve. I’m talking about all of those ideas you have that make bondage seem like something for freak, weirdos and perverts. Seeing people restrained in miles of rope for Shibari or seeing other people willingly hung from the ceiling can make bondage seem far more extreme than you’re willing to go. It doesn’t really have to be that way, though.

There’s a very lovely space in between extreme bondage and no bondage at all that has plenty of room for people to inhabit. It’s an area of power dynamics, eroticism, enhanced sensory perception, and trust. It can strengthen a relationship or reiterate just how strong it is to begin with. First, let’s look into what bondage actually is.

Light Bondage = It’s The First Part Of BDSM

Those four letters in the acronym BDSM are pulling a whole lot of weight. It probably means more than you think it does. The acronym itself stands for “Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism.”

All of that sounds dreadfully scary when you think about it. How can anyone willfully open themselves up to half of those words? Luckily, they don’t all have to be taken together. A little foray into light bondage isn’t going to lead to a lifetime of begging people to whip you in a back alley.

Light Bondage Is, Yes…Light

So what is light bondage? It can really be anything that you want it to be. This is all happening between you and your lover behind closed doors. No one has to have any influence here. What I would say it means to me is a blindfold, ropes, a little spanking and plenty of sex toys.

OF course, that rope doesn’t have to be rope. It can be any form of restraint, like handcuffs or a simple piece of fabric. It could also be no restraint at all.

One thing you should never do is underestimate the power of giving orders. One word from your boyfriend or husband can send shivers up and down your spine if it’s done properly.

Mental bondage is yet another aspect of this whole thing that we’ll get into in time. For now, let’s run down some of the other fun little tools that we’ve brought out of this Pandora’s Box. You might be surprised at just how much they excite you.

Safety First

The first thing you need to do is lay down your ground rules. I don’t care if you’re trying to hire some girl on the PrivateDelights.com network to play rough with you or if you’re shacking up with your sex partner.

No one should ever go into a bondage situation without a safe word. It doesn’t matter how much you trust your partner. Signals can get very mixed when control is involved. Certain sounds that you make can mean that you want things to stop but give the opposite impression to your partner in the heat of the moment.

That’s why you always need a safe word.

This is the magic word that ends it all once uttered. It should be something that you’re not going to scream out in a fit of passion. You don’t want things to accidentally end just when they’re getting good. Make it something that you can easily say without it being something that you say, if that makes sense. Once you utter this word, everything ends.

It’s penciled downtime and you’re free to be released from everything. It’s to be used when you’re uncomfortable or in what some may consider a bad type of pain. Remember that this is all for pleasure. There are lines that shouldn’t be crossed at this or any juncture. A safeword is the kill switch that you always want by your side.

Blindfolds

Now we’ll move on to the good stuff. If you ask any group of women if they’ve ever been blindfolded, chances are extremely high that the majority of them will say yes. That’s because it’s a very common and very acceptable form of bondage. What you’re doing is restricting one person’s senses.

In doing that, you’re enhancing all of the others. Believe me when I say that a fingertip brushing against your skin has never felt as intense as it does when you’re in total darkness. A blindfold should always make it into your play.

Restraints

Being restrained is a form of handing over power that you can’t do with anyone else. It’s something extremely intimate between you and your lover. When you put yourself in their hands, you can see what kind of person they really are.

Whose pleasure will come first in this scenario? How intense will it get? You can only find out by handing over that control. If you’re afraid of it, but want to try, do it in short bursts of time. Set a clock if you have to.

Go for a few minutes at a time. I can almost guarantee that the clock will disappear at some point and you’ll desire nothing more than the feeling of rope around your wrists.

Mental Restraints

This is something that you’ll have to work at. What if you’re simply told to hold your hands above your head while he works on your body? Would you be able to? Would you be able to follow his orders and hold yourself still for your sex partner?

Would you be able to look your hookup partner directly in the eye while you use toys at their command? Could you stop yourself from going over the edge? This is all of bondage boiled down to one form of restraint. You’ll fail a lot. So will he. The goal is to continue working at it and having fun along the way.

Try It However You Want

These are just a few of the ways that you can have fun with light bondage. You don’t have to try it all. You don’t have to try any of it at all. I’m willing to bet that you want to, though. You wouldn’t be reading this for any other reason. Just keep your safeword handy and see how far you can take things.

Where To Find It?

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