Look, whether you’re hooking up with a significant other, a quick fling you met online or some girl you hired to have sex with you, it can always go stale. Truth be told, sex is always in danger of turning into a total bummer. It happens to the best of relationships.
Think back to the beginning of any of your relationships and ask yourself why you wanted to have sex in the first place. It was probably because you partner was hot, right? You wanted to feel her skin against yours. You want to taste her lips. You wanted to be inside of her. Am I sounding cheesy?
What about now? Is that still the reason you have sex? Is the reason you have sex is just because you’re horny and she’s there? Is it because it’s Saturday night and you’re actually together, so you may as well? Is it to share some intimacy and nothing more? These are the most common ones in long term relationships.
You probably miss the way you used to feel when you had sex. You might even miss her ability to make you cum. Don’t worry because all is not lost. You can still find that passion for sex that you used to have. You just have to learn how to take it slow. Yup, I said Sloooooowwww! I’ve got some slow sex tips for you to help improve your sex life.
Slow Sex Tips For Everyone
This is a short but sweet list of quick tips that you need to know and understand. Remember, these are not jackrabbit tips, they’re slow ones so keep it slow.
Remember Why You Want The Sex
The very first thing you have to do is remind yourself of why you enjoyed sex with him in the first place. It was because you enjoyed him. You wanted him all over you and you wanted to be all over him. Over time, these feelings have dulled a little.
You’ve already climbed that mountain and looked down from the peak. That’s why you should abstain from sex for a little while. Take some time apart and let that feeling grow again. The heart never grows fond for something that it already has. It will make your next time just as good as the first.
Please Keep Your Clothes On
The first step toward any great sexual experience is always going to be the foreplay. You have to stretch that out for as long as you possibly can. It’s probably not the same kind of foreplay that you’re already used to having, though. I’m not talking about getting naked and going down on each other. This foreplay requires you to keep your clothes on. Maybe put on some tunes too.
It also doesn’t start in the bedroom. Start your foreplay out in public. Start it on the sofa while you’re watching TV. Start it anywhere as long as it’s early in the day. Kiss each other like you mean it. Caress each other’s backs. Put your hand on her thigh. This is the kind of foreplay that will ignite the embers that become a raging inferno. Just keep it going all day long.
It’s the promise of what’s to come that will make it amazing when it finally arrives. Most importantly, don’t let anything get in the way of this. It doesn’t matter what else happens in your day.
The two of you have to go through it together and you have to be with each other in every sense of the word. Don’t let a sudden bad mood ruin everything. Just keep it going until you finally get into the bedroom.
Show Yourself Off
Now that you’re both alone, it’s time to show her what you’ve got. Obviously, she’s seen you naked before.
She knows every inch of your body. She even probably knows what you look like on the toilet. Don’t let that deter you. Your body is still your ticket to pleasure. Undress slowly.
Draw her attention to one part of your body at a time. Run your fingers down your calf. The one thing you absolutely should not be doing right now is asking her to look at a spot.
Don’t ask her if your skin looks dry in one area. This isn’t a utilitarian act. You’re trying to seduce her, not get free medical advice. Just use your body to turn her on.
Now it’s time for the physical contact. Don’t just jump on top of her and pound her out. It doesn’t matter how much you want to at this point. Hold yourself back. Crawl in between her legs and massage her vagina.
Run your fingertips over the clit. Explore every inch of her inner thigh area and then let her do the same to you. Handjobs and a good fingering are always the beginning of a very sensual experience.
Then it’s time to move onto the next step. This is the oral part of the exam and you can always do it wrong. You’re not just licking her pussy and she’s not just sucking his dick here. You’re seducing each other with your mouths.
Make it long and slow…
Keep everything wet…
Just make each other feel good, but don’t get either partner too close to cumming. That’s what she has to do for you. Let her go down on you and make sure you tell her what you want. Tell her where her tongue should be and what it should be doing. The goal here is to be on the verge of orgasm by the time she finally lets you penetrate.
Spread her legs and get inside. Hold onto her tight. Keep your pelvis close to hers. Don’t jackhammer her. Move with her. Let the sensations bring you right up to climaxing. Don’t worry about making her cum.
She’ll get there no matter what. By the time you’re about to have your orgasm, she’ll be right there with you.
Cum with each other for the first time in forever and you’ll never forget just how amazing it felt. This will be the first time you’ve ever had sex all over again and it should be how you do it from now on.
Wrapping Things Up
Now, I know I sound like a cheesy romance novel or the narrator of Showtime’s Red Shoe Diaries, but this is some serious stuff and something that can help you have a better sexual experience, hookup a lot more and improve your overall quality of life in general.