There’s nothing at all wrong with a good hook up every now and again. Sex is fun and sex is healthy. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m all about this stuff. Heck, all you have to do is read my blog and you’ll know that. Pretty much everyone has sex. We all know, long gone are the days of saving yourself for marriage. People are even cheating on each other via the secretive Ashley Madison platform.
No one expects you to lock away your dick until you find the woman who was meant for you. The time before finding her is a time of sexual exploration aka smashing and dashing 24/7 and just having plain old fun. However, the truth is that it just doesn’t always work out that way for everyone. Sometimes a hook up can turn into a whole lot more than that.
Sometimes the woman who was meant for you was lying next to you the whole time. You just have to be able to tell when it’s happening. There comes a time in every man’s life when he has to ask himself if a hook up is more than a hook up.
It can be a very difficult question to answer. Sure, she’s great in bed, but is she great at other things? Is that feeling in your stomach when you see her more than just happiness at the promise of sex? Here are some signs that she’s more than just a hook up for you.
Signs It’s More Than Just A Casual Hookup
Read ’em and weep, literally!
You Talk And Listen To Each Other
Nothing is more important in a relationship that talking to each other. Sometimes it’s about the bills and other times it’s about what you’re having for dinner. Then there are those times when the conversation is deep and meaningful. Those are the ones that you have to watch out for.
Can you talk to her about things that you can’t talk to anyone else about? Does she understand what you’re saying without you having to explain it? Can you really open yourself up to her and have deep conversations? That’s your first sign.
You Actually Care About Each Other
The best part of a casual fling is that you don’t have to care about each other. What you know about the other person begins and ends at the crotch, lol. You’re just in it for the super easy sex.
What happens if she tells you something and you find yourself caring? What if she starts to care about you? This isn’t a manufactured thing. If you find yourselves caring about what happens in the other person’s life, then you might end up being more than just a hookup.
You Talk Between Booty Calls
Now, there probably isn’t a whole lot of talking during your actual hookups. Most of the communication probably comes in the form of grunting and moaning. What about in between your hookups? Do you talk to each other? It doesn’t have to be a daily occurrence. You’re not dating, after all.
Still, you might find yourself looking forward to hearing from her. Maybe you get a little too happy when you see her name pop up on your phone. Maybe you even get together for lunch. This is talking in between bang sessions and it’s a sign that you like each other.
You Don’t Always Bang
This is a sign that’s sure to send shivers down your spine. What happens when you start hanging out without hooking up? Surely it’s just because you’re tired, right? You can’t just have sex all of the time. You need a breather every once in a while.
So, why are you spending this time with her? You’re spending time with your hook up partner without hooking up. That’s about as much proof as you need to know that you just like being with each other.
You Share The Same Friends
It doesn’t matter how this came to be, but now it’s a fact. You both have the same friends. Maybe that’s how you met in the first place. That’s fine, but it means more than you think. It means that you’re both closer to each other than you’ve ever imagined.
You both have the same friends and that means you share the same likes and dislikes. Maybe that’s not how it happened. Maybe you’ve spent so much time together that her friends have become yours. That’s a sure sign that she’s way more than “casual” for you.
You Protect Each Other
We’re not talking about lending you short money so you can go get a condom out of the restroom vending machine. We’re talking about protecting each other and taking care of each other. That’s both emotional and physical.
It doesn’t matter how it happens, but you’ll know it when you are protecting one another. That means that you care about a whole lot about one another than just her moves in the bedroom. You’re caring about her and she’s caring about you on a much deeper level.
You’re Not Interested In Anyone Else
This one is a biggie…One of the basic tenets of hooking up is that you can always have your eye on the next girl. You’re not being held down by anyone. You can schedule one smash session for 5pm and the next one for 9pm. It’s totally up to you how many other women you see.
You just don’t want to, though…
Instead, you’re simply not interested in being with anyone else. It doesn’t matter if it’s just in terms of sex or for your time in general. You just want to be with the person and that’s the final sign you need that she’s more than just a hook up for you.
It’s Not Uncommon
To wrap things up, I need you to know that none of this is strange. None of this should be a surprise. Sex is a very intimate thing. You don’t just go around having it with everyone all the time. Well, unless you’re actively using hookup sites and platforms like me.
It was never just done because he was hot. She was perfect and her smile made you melt. All of that is the groundwork for an actual relationship. Whether or not you actually pursue it is always up to you. Just know that you have feelings for each other and never deny it.
About Owen Cashner
Owen Cashner considers himself a professional dater and amateur comedian. His passion for writing led him to document his experiences using online dating websites. All opinions expressed on this website are to further educate men on the landscape of dating. Use this information to your advantage and conquer the dating world.
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